I'd love to see some examples of 'toxic'. In my observation, matter-of-fact speaking when the facts are extremely unpleasant are often get interpreted as toxic. Awhile back remember I started dating a woman who I had known on Facebook a little bit. She told me that I look an angry person on Facebook, completely opposite of how I am in person. I don't use Facebook anymore, but, truth is, I always spoke quite directly and frankly on Facebook. I just said what I believe was true. There was no hostility at all. I've had people who believe the same way as me say they like how matter-of-factly I spoke about things. I often read things that, to me, seem quite reasonable, only to see other people label it as hostil / vitrolic.