Coming back to this to say more -

I love having kids, and they make life much more complicated.

My whole (week)day looks something like this:

5:00 wakeup
5:30 gym
6:45 home, shower
make breakfast
other prep
7:15? kids wake up
8:30 kids out of house or I drive
breath
9:00 work starts
mostly work and some household stuff
4:00 stop work
kids already home
chaos
5:00 eat dinner
dishes, etc
kid baths
play with kids
7:00-8:00 kid bedtime
8:00 dishes, lunch prep, get ready for tomorrow
8:30 kid wakes up
9:00 kid goes back to bed
10:00 goal is to be asleep

Having checklists has helped at different points, when I feel that we just can't keep it all together with what needs to happen in the mornings or evenings.

Doing sufficient prep in the evening, for tomorrow, makes a huge difference.

My days are often wire to wire. Between kid time, kid bedtime. house cleanup, I’m booked till 9PM

A lot of things get done on the weekend.

Working from home also helps