Life is a series of decisions, from the simplest to the most complex. And in many of them, we are faced with the dilemma of trying something new and risking failure or simply giving up before we even start.
Faced with this choice, the question arises: what is worse, failing or never trying? Which of the two options brings more suffering, regret, and frustration?
I would say, life is too short. Love, relationships and opportunities are priceless. That being said, never trying would cause regret, never trying and not caring is not the same thing. If you like/love someone, try to be part of their life 1 way or another. Because at least trying makes an impression and impact on that person's life 1 way or the other. Even if you fail, at least you know and you learn. Not trying still feels like failing anyway. Fear nothing, don't block yourself, other people have a different view of you than you do 100 percent of the time.
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145 sats \ 1 reply \ @javier 4 Apr
It's a balanced decision which requires intelligence and adaptation. Those who always try even if they know they are going to fail are naive. Those who never try die in fear and lack total freedom.
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Bingo!
In the abstract, I'm on the "never trying is worse" side, because at least you can learn something from failure.
However, discerning a lost cause is an important skill. Otherwise, you spend your whole life tilting at windmills.
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After too many failures I have taken a break from trying anything
Despair is tough to overcome
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Personally I've never regretted anything I did. I have regretted things I did not do. Not trying is apathy is death. Failing is essential for success. Those who don't fail are not setting their goals high enough. Also, as they say, it's about the journey rather than the destination. If the destination is failure, but the journey there itself is pleasant and/or educating, is it then really a failure?
Searching through my notes file I found this thought from August 2023: I would call myself a professional failure. I fail at most things, and I fail constantly. Perhaps the only difference between me and most people is that I don’t revert back to the “normal,” the average, the safe, the mediocre. I keep on failin’. This from February 2023: "Having failed as many times as I have, my subsequent chances of success are much greater than of those who have not failed at all. And this from November 2022: DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL People tend to worry about screwing up, failing at something, not doing good enough. You should not worry about any of that. The only thing you should be worried about is whether you are doing the right things in the first place. How they turn out is irrelevant for all intents and purposes. Focus on whether you are doing the right thing and putting in the required amount of effort.
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In my honest opinion worse is definitely never trying!
You learn much more from failure than from an easy success, but you need the mindset to stand up again.
The greatest victory often arises from enduring numerous failures!
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58 sats \ 1 reply \ @siggy47 4 Apr
Failing is worse than never trying. I just picked this side of the argument because no one else will.
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Never trying is far worse than failing, and it's not even close.
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failure is not an option, but honestly, it is better to fail than to never try.
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Whoa! You've literally hard forked "To be or not to be—that is the question”
For the sake of unpredictability of life, I would go with 'failing' than 'never trying'.
Failing 1000 times is better than 'never trying'. For me, failing has been the joy of life and 'never trying' has been with dullness.
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