Hey it's me Dennis Porter (no, not that Dennis Porter) again.
I went to my local meetup last night and the topic of security and self-custody came up. I was asked about my thoughts regarding security setups and hardware wallets. When I shared my perspective I was laughed out of the brewery (almost literally).
The truth is my wife manages our private keys and security situation. Without sharing too much information, we have a multi sig wallet for most of our savings and it was set up by my wife who also manages our hardware devices and seed phrase backups. I don't think this is particularly strange or unconventional. She's a software engineer for a major tech company and she watched a webinar with Stephan Livera and decided to overhaul our security.
I was called a "simp" and asked multiple times what would happen if my wife cheated on me and left but I don't think those are fair questions. We are in a loving committed poly relationship and I trust her. She is more technically competent than I am so I have zero qualms about this arrangement.
Again.. my question is: how would you handle this?
I feel like you’re trolling lol
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146 sats \ 0 replies \ @OT 16 Aug
You probably shouldn't be telling people these kinds of details.
Glad that you got your wife involved though, this is something that many bitcoiners have still been unable to achieve. Maybe you could use this point to argue with these "simp" people. Ask them if they've orange pilled their partner.
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"loving committed poly relationship"?
Come on, you're trolling us now
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That is unfortunate if true, I feel for you and I really want to extend understanding to you. As a woman, I'll take a measure of the offense the group's response is responsible for. But, you did lose me at poly. Help us out with that, how can it work? I'll also say I am a married woman, and the vows I took are sacred. How would I handle it? Just trust my own setup and trust the reasons for it, and don't let anyone know a thing about it.
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255 sats \ 2 replies \ @k00b 16 Aug
If she's your anchor partner, you might trust her to distribute keys evenly among anyone you've both fluid bonded with. If it's just a throuple, 2-of-3 would make a lot of sense. If you're in a quad, someone will inevitably wibble.
Nothing wrong with that at all. Whether you're a simp or not, there is nothing wrong with being one and nothing wrong with letting your alpha female wife manage your family's Bitcoin. Tell the naysayers to have fun staying ignorant.
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31 sats \ 1 reply \ @ChrisS 16 Aug
No one can tell you how to do your own self custody. If you want your wife to be in charge and trust her than why do you care what others think?
What is a "loving committed poly relationship"? I think you are leaving some important details out of the story. Its very strange you would be laughed out of the room and called those names for the reasons you give. Most decent people would offer to help if they though your were making a mistake. If the story is how you say and you want to know how to handle it, I would say don't go back to that meetup.
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Poly relationship is not related to multi-sig lol?
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What is a poly relationship? Can you elaborate?
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I am schizophrenic and stress management is my #1 priority. How I would handle it is never go there again. Being called a "simp," especially in-person is a clearly hostile environment, even if just socially.
I don't know what being "poly" has to do with this, but it is evidence that you probably overshare. Might need to work on that, I have a similar issue and I am working on it. People are ignorant. Be a designer with your words — less is more.
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"We are in a loving committed poly relationship and I trust her."
You almost had me there.
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Those Seattle bitcoiners are ruthless.
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god this is funny shit
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Wut
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Next time just say you use a private qualified custodian; a person from a major tech company that runs a side business providing custody of children and bitcoin.