What supports you when nothing does? \ stacker news ~alter

2388 sats \ 23 comments \ @Kontext 2 Oct alter_native

What supports you when nothing does? Who do you turn to when the world turns away from you? How do you convince yourself that your work is important and valuable when no one around you seems to see it as such? For how long are you willing to keep faking it until you need external validation that you're making it? How do you overcome impostor syndrome?

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278 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

This is a great question. I battle with this all the time. In general I do not feel understood in this world. Luckily I have my wife, my dogs and a few fellow stackers that see me from time to time. It has been very difficult for me to give up the need for validation. I am constantly looking to convince myself that it is not necessary. But it's still there.

103 sats \ 2 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

Remember, we are never alone. We are all one.

11 sats \ 1 reply \ @Recongraves 2 Oct

We're standing together

3 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

Yes we are

148 sats \ 1 reply \ @TheWildHustle 2 Oct

When it seems like everything is against Hustle, he just digs deeper into work.

It helps.

Probably something to do with "Agape" "In the New Testament, agape refers to the covenant love of God for humans, as well as the human reciprocal love for God; the term necessarily extends to the love of one's fellow human beings."

Doing what I can to support FOSS in helping humanity overcome the forces of evil is a big motivating factor. That and the occasional run.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

Keep up the good work. This is important. We are the trailblazers making a new future.

41 sats \ 1 reply \ @Akg10s33 2 Oct

I must confess that a few years ago when I had problems with my partner... I got to a point where I needed approval from someone else!! That person who would tell me that the decision or action I was taking was right!! But then after a night of reading a lot without sleeping I understood that what I do, my actions satisfy me... and drive me forward! I am a seller of cell phone items and every day on the streets of the busy capital of Peru you see depressed people... sad... and with their heads down... they have no drive or energy... and that is wrong... I say that if you can breathe and stand you can do it!!!! 💪💪

2 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

Let's goooo⚡⚡⚡

21 sats \ 1 reply \ @Manikese 2 Oct

Source

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

🙏

21 sats \ 1 reply \ @zapsammy 2 Oct

make new friends. one day some masks shall fall, and the wo/men underneath can be my friends again

13 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

Yeah. I have had to learn this also. Most of my family and old friend group are in a whole different reality. Scared of everything. And j don't know how to get through to them. So I walked away and started making new friends. It's was rough getting though the transition.

21 sats \ 4 replies \ @Msd0457890 2 Oct

I have always considered myself a self-challenging being, which is why I am always clear about my goals, projects, and decisions, which drives me and generates inexhaustible strength in me.

1 sat \ 3 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

That's a great strength. I am kind of the other way around. Super disorganized. Very unclear in a lot of ways. I like to say I am an improviser.

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @Msd0457890 2 Oct

Nothing you can't fix with a lot of effort and dedication.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

I surrender to the flow of nature.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

It's not something that needs Fixing. I love the way I am. And I love the way you are. No right or wrong. I do big things when I am inspired. And I meditate a lot. I save my energy.

21 sats \ 2 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 2 Oct

Gardening is good.

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @DesertDave 2 Oct

I need a gardener for Moto Mountain. i don't think it's my calling but I imagine it's great for feeling more connected to nature.

120 sats \ 0 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 2 Oct

Yes definitely connects with nature. Most commercial processed food is saturated with chemicals now. The regularity of the seasons and times when to plant and when to harvest various things over time builds a mental plan that connects yourself with the seasons and constant anticipation. Watering new seedlings or digging the kitchen scraps into the ground and seeing the worms convert them into rich soil, waiting for rain or sunshine or apricots to ripen. The simple magic of how seeds germinate and grow and the security of having food growing on your land. The exercise helps too...hard to feel down with the sun on your back while digging new seasons potatoes!

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @ET_AI 20h

Remember, everything is temporary. Believe in your blessings. They are coming.

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @nichro 2 Oct

A deep, implacable burning desire to outlive my enemies and go on in spite of those, or the world, who would have me fail

someone had to give the edgy answer :P

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @Myshkin 2 Oct

These are terrific questions, impostor syndrome is difficult so overcome if you don't force yourself to be objective in observing the world. I try to measure my performance through time and usually that helps me to be more objective. External validation is the worst thing to sake, even though we are very very prone to that.