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How sensitive is overly sensitive? What is sensitivity?

284 sats \ 24 comments \ @DesertDave 3 Dec alter_native

It's interesting to me that people often call me overly sensitive. To me it's a great thing. We should all want to be more sensitive in my opinion. Sensitivity to me means taking in more information. How could this be bad? f you were going to build an antenna, would you want it to be sensitive or bad at receiving signals? If we talk about sex, would you rather be super sensitive and learn to control that sexual energy resulting in hours of ultra pleasurable sex? Or would you rather be desensitized to the point where you couldn't reach a climax and it didn't even feel good? When did being sensitivity become a bad thing?

I was always very sensitive as a young child. And as a result I struggled to feel okay in what I perceived to be a very harsh world to live in. As I grew up I did everything to desensitize myself, overeating, drugs, alcohol, distractions, masterbation, etc.

In my healing journey, I have been working on regaining my sensitivity, while also learning to be more resilient. To me this is expansion. This is how I have learned to harness my energy and be more magical effective human being. I don't have thick skin. But I know who I am so it is difficult to offend me or hurt me now. My aura is stronger. I am more sure of myself than ever, while still being incredibly sensitive.

So wouldn't we want to be more sensitive while also learning to be more resilient? Why would we want to be desensitized? To me being desensitized is about silencing our intuition and our connection to the world. For me, I would be lost without my intuition. I wouldn't know how to navigate my reality. What am I missing? Why would one want to be less sensitive? What does it mean to you to be overly sensitive?

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111 sats \ 1 reply \ @TNStacker 4 Dec

If people often call you overly sensitive, perhaps you should take an introspective look. However you get to decide how you want to be. So take a look at the criticism. Is there is something valid you can use use it. Otherwise, you be you and don't worry about what "they" say boo boo.

21 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

I'm no worried at all. And I'm not crying. I feel great. It did inspire me though and I am grateful. I believe am pretty good at taking an introspective look. And I love who I am. I am asking for people to look at the word and tell me what it means. Take my story out of the picture and consider the words.

31 sats \ 7 replies \ @j7hB75 4 Dec

Curious, is this post a reaction to your comments from your previous post today about Darth?

0 sats \ 6 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

It did inspire me. It's not a reaction. I am trying to understand people better and asking a question. What does sensitivity mean to you?

11 sats \ 5 replies \ @j7hB75 4 Dec

What does sensitivity mean to you?

Often letting external factors, much which you have no control over, affect you in a way that makes you upset or emotionally unstable. On the other hand, sensitivity could be attributed to being highly empathetic -- which is not necessarily a bad attribute to possess.

As I've grown older, I've found that most things in this world you have no control over and you should not let them affect you. This is easier said than done, however.

10 sats \ 4 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

I feel that part about the struggle to deal with sensitivity. I agree with your second definition. The first one isn't really what the word means in my opinion. It's how we tend to interpret it. Sensitivity out of the context of human interaction has nothing to do with letting external factors effect you negatively. It just is. No negative or positive associated with it. It just means having lots of sense. We humans have twisted the meaning. Does that make sense? Pun intended

11 sats \ 3 replies \ @j7hB75 4 Dec

Does that make sense? Pun intended Ha.

Yeah, I think we can agree that sensitivity has many definitions and interpretations in society. However, I think most of society tends to attribute being sensitive to one that takes things personally often.

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

You are right, but that's not what it means. Take the word in a bigger context and it is about taking in more information. That was the point of the post. Words have their core meaning for a reason. I think it's important to consider.

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @j7hB75 4 Dec

Yeah, I get where you are coming from. Thanks for that perspective.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

Thank you for yours.

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22 sats \ 7 replies \ @SimpleStacker 4 Dec

Being sensitive is not bad. It's how you react to your senses that matters.

When people say someone is too sensitive, it usually means they react badly. Insensitive people do not react badly, because they never sensed anything was wrong in the first place.

A sensitive person who is in control of their actions can be a great leader, because they are aware of how different situations make people feel.

0 sats \ 5 replies \ @Bell_curve 5 Dec

I think gaslighting is involved. If someone is overreacting or reacting badly then criticize the action not the person and his character flaws

Edit: Regarding insensitivity, when I am most irate I can be the coldest most ruthless person. Need help? Talk to the hand

0 sats \ 4 replies \ @DesertDave OP 5 Dec

How does sensitivity inherently connected to gaslighting? Did you read the original post?

0 sats \ 3 replies \ @Bell_curve 5 Dec

When people call you oversensitive, they are gaslighting you

In other words, I am defending you

11 sats \ 2 replies \ @DesertDave OP 5 Dec

I see what you are saying now. I think it's interesting how different the word sensitive is at its root versus how we perceive it within social constructs. I think this is true with a lot of our language. It feels like we change the meaning of words.

110 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bell_curve 5 Dec

Resilience is probably the most important trait you can develop

I have trouble with it

11 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave OP 5 Dec

Me too. Interacting on here helps me learn. Honestly before stacker I never really dealt with online interactions. I never shared myself and opened up anywhere. It's very different than in person interactions.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

That makes sense and I agree. And I think sensitive people who stand I their power can be very intimidating to someone who is uncomfortable in their skin. In my experience people are either very attracted to me or very put off. Especially in person. It feels like a blessing mostly and also super challenging at times.

110 sats \ 0 replies \ @Imyourfed 4 Dec

Being sensitive is not bad at all. I'm also a sensitive person and I can tell you it really helps me understand others and their problems without much difficulty. It's what makes me humble and empathetic. Also, in life it has helped me set boundaries about what I like and dislike, and others respect that. Don't ever think you need to make yourself tough; you have reached here because you are a sensitive and kind person.

11 sats \ 1 reply \ @sangekrypto 4 Dec

Sensitive people are difficult to approach, because sensitive people are difficult to talk to, if they are offended they are difficult to deal with.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

I see what you are saying but being sensitive doesn't inherently mean easily offended. It's two different things. Think about that actual meaning of the word sensitive. We can be sensitive and still hard to offend. That's the whole point of my post.

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @7e6e393a56 4 Dec

I don't see anything wrong with a person being overly sensitive. Sensitivity means empathy, which is certainly one of the noblest human feelings. Understanding and helping others requires imagining yourself in their condition. Sensitivity is often confused with naivety, which in my opinion are different things.

20 sats \ 1 reply \ @DesertDave OP 4 Dec

I think empathy and sensitivity are related when we think about human interactions. But an antenna can be sensitive but cannot be empathic. So I wouldn't say they are the same thing. I agree that naivety is quite different from sensitivity. One can be sensitive while also being wise.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @7e6e393a56 4 Dec

Yes, looking at this aspect, sensitivity and empathy are different, but my focus was on human interactions