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46 sats \ 7 replies \ @Imyourfed 19 Dec \ on: How do people live with their parents? alter_native
Yes it is tough. Even if you love them, spending too much time together is exhausting. You fall into routines that feel cramped and annoying, but over time you find a way to make it work. The hope is always that it’s short-term and still cherishing the moments and keeping the peace.
Another point is that your parents still think of you as the child, no matter how old you are. They also treat you as their child. Can you put up with that as an independent adult? That is usually the sticking point in these realationships.
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Exactly. That manifests in them "being in the way" trying to do things for us that we're also trying to do for ourselves.
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Yes, that is irritating. That is one reason why I spent a lot of time away from “home” while I was staying with her. The one good thing about it was I could set up here IT stuff and make it work for her when she didn’t have a clue.
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You fall into routines that feel cramped and annoying
That's exactly it.
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Sadly, I have no clue how to balance this. It feels like there's nothing can be done.
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You could try to ignore it or make sure you are busy with something else all the time.
This happened to me when I had to live with my mother while attending college for two whole years. I learned to keep busy with the books when I was there and try to ignore the grating parts.
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Thanks
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