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Why is it so difficult to accept a different opinion?

381 sats \ 26 comments \ @Bit_Alb 4 Jan ideasfromtheedge

I’ve seen many cases here on Stacker News where people with different opinions end up insulting each other. It’s perfectly normal to have differing views on many topics. But if someone else has a different opinion, why should I insult them?

What’s more - and even worse - I see people here (I won’t mention names) who, after arguing once about a specific topic, continue to insult each other in unrelated comments that have nothing to do with the original discussion.

I don’t understand this. I know we’re all human and don’t like it when others oppose our views. However, why should I attack and insult someone just because they disagree with me?

I think it's just a matter of an unhealthy egoism!

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71 sats \ 13 replies \ @denlillaapan 4 Jan

Someone is wrong on the internet?

74 sats \ 5 replies \ @SimpleStacker 4 Jan

203 sats \ 3 replies \ @ek 5 Jan

21 sats \ 2 replies \ @SimpleStacker 5 Jan

Oh snap, never thought of that! Maybe that's why my Stack Overflow question never got answered

30 sats \ 1 reply \ @ek 5 Jan

life is social engineering all the way down

21 sats \ 0 replies \ @SimpleStacker 5 Jan

"Poor people work with their hands, the middle class work with their heads, and rich people work with their mouths"

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @denlillaapan 5 Jan

Wiiiiisdom

41 sats \ 3 replies \ @Bit_Alb OP 4 Jan

Someone is wrong on the internet?

I know that, but why? Why do people have such a strong desire to prove themselves right on the internet?

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @siggy47 4 Jan

It's the anonymity and safety. There's no chance you'll get punched in the mouth.

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @anon 5 Jan

bitcoin fixes this

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bit_Alb OP 5 Jan

How?

41 sats \ 2 replies \ @Aardvark 4 Jan

Honestly, I'm the only person I've ever met that's never been wrong, so I'm not surprised.

21 sats \ 1 reply \ @SimpleStacker 5 Jan

DarthCoin is also never wrong

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark 5 Jan

Ok, that's actually fair.

72 sats \ 2 replies \ @Undisciplined 4 Jan

It's a sign of insecurity. Sometimes it's also a matter of things being misinterpreted during a tense argument and then an escalatory spiral. Text-based communication is easy to misconstrue, especially with people from so many different cultures.

I actually take the other side, though. Rapid escalation to name calling is the norm online. However, I've had many civil disagreements with people on Stacker News. Sometimes, one of us even changed their mind. How neat is that?

21 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bit_Alb OP 4 Jan

It's a sign of insecurity

Agreed.

However, I've had many civil disagreements with people on Stacker News

I'm glad to hear that. Are these "civil disagreements" something normal for you here, or are they exceptions to the rule?

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 4 Jan

In terms of disagreements, I'd say most are civil, but most conversations don't even generate disagreements.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Roll 5 Jan

May be, because they do not work enough on themself

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @charonnakamoto 5 Jan

Evolutionary psychology suggests that it’s a way of expressing our connections with our group, helping to clarify who belongs to 'us' and who might be considered 'them.' Once those battle lines are drawn, it's hard to redraw them despite evidence to the contrary.

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @guts 4 Jan

You won't get straight answer from those you are referring too. It escalates really quicky if you have negative opinion of Bitcoin or mention another cryptocurrency.

11 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bit_Alb OP 4 Jan

It escalates really quicky if you have negative opinion of Bitcoin or mention another cryptocurrency.

But it's not normal. We live in a free society where people are free to express their opinions. We don't live in a Communist or Nazi era, where you weren't allowed to say what you wanted to say.

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bell_curve 4 Jan

the title is misleading

it's not about differing opinions as it is about insults or lack of civility

"A man who has been hit by a libel will not be angry. He will be angry if he is hit by a satire." GK Chesterton

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bit_Alb OP 4 Jan

it's not about differing opinions as it is about insults or lack of civility

The whole problem starts with different opinions.

0 sats \ 2 replies \ @ChrisS 4 Jan

It has a lot to do with having conversations online vs in person. Those types of conversations rarely if ever happen in person.

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bell_curve 4 Jan

Is it easier to change someone's opinion in person?

In person conversations are generally more civil but not alway

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bit_Alb OP 4 Jan

Is it easier to change someone's opinion in person?

Why do you have "to change someone's opinion in person?"