0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Naja 15 May \ on: A letter to Self-Worth... culture
Love it. This one resonates with me profoundly now. Today is my "new year's eve"! The 16th of May has had a special significance for me for 11 years now, so for me, it's that time of teh year where I rumminate about previous and set expectations/goals for next "year" (minus the drinks and fireworks). It worked well while I was filled with hope and energy, but as routine settled in, it turned into a rumination on inner and outer expectations, things I hadn't achieved, etc.. Now I see teh effects on my self worth..
Yesterday, I came across the perfect quote on an episode of House:
"You reaccess your life, when you make a mistake. You haven't." :)
Today I came across your post: serendipity!
Thank you :)
That's funny. For many years I defended that fear is the original feeling! All other feelings can be dissected back to fear..
It was mostly a pet project I would entertain in my mind with when I was bored, the way some people will sing a song in their heads while doing dishedhe dishes or laundry! (Yes, I'm weird! No, it's not the weirdest I can be!)
But like you mention, the more you think about it and the more your perspective seems blinded by it.. It was when I noticed how fearful I actually was (even though I acted - and still do - tough!), that I've tried seeing the world with new eyes.. it helped to surround myself with people that thought differently and challenged me. But new surroundings, better stories and challenges mean nothing, if we're not willing to admit we were wrong, and pivot to a new perspective..
Great read! I agree! In fact, I think the ones fobbing it off as a fantasy are just lazy (or unaware, if I need to play nice), stuck in between wishing and dreaming but not actively doing anything about it.
oh the joys of simple silogisms..
I've stopped, and thought. Not sure if it's telling more about the one chosen, or teh one that's chosing.
I would. Same fear of external influence now as a human anyway, so willing to take the risk. Aren't we hacked now as humans anyway? Even controlled to an extent, no matter how much your ego tries to disguise it. The news and books you chose to read, the ones force fed in a feed (that you chose not to read, but to make that concious decision, you had to look at in the first place) etc. There are influences and possible hacks left and right now anyway. I see AI as a kid. A blank slate, full of potential and feeding from all the surronding stimulus: knowledge, actions, physical responses, emotional responses, etc..
I totally agree! if we were all to write our memoirs as a daily database (identifying feelings, contexts, etc), and plug it to an AI model, connect to a chat bot, we'd be able to talk to ourselves. Now I talk to myself often anyway :sweat_smile:, but I actually try totrick myself a lot while doing it! Imagine not being able to do it, with AI detached from emotions, replying to your own insecurities, telling yourself off! that'd be aewsome!
we can go on and on about each story, but the fact is that there are many, and even if we just focus on one, the way we both interpret it will most likely vary! for example, I was born and raised in Portugal, and currently live in the UK for the last 10 years. The same saying "Jack/Jane of all trades and master of none", is definetely perceived differently between Portuguese and English people. In England there seems to be a negative conotation to it, while in Portugal it seems to refer more to someone's resourcefulness, and seen more positevely.
Even if we were to strip down the stories to their semantic core, we would still have our cultural context, personal experiences, etc, conducting the show of our interpretation. So yes, I agree. No matter how I push torwards critical thinking, it is still based on someone else's thinking (even if it's subconcious stories from cultural context). We need both external and internal locus. Absolutely.
I've received a cowboy hat yesterday! So allow me to use your words with a twist as I tip my hat to you:
I am looking forward to watching you becoming the master of lots of things at a time and I truly support you with it (with confettis!) :)
My question to you would be... why would you want to try and become a master in lots of things all at once? What's the purpose of this?
to break the cycle of the stories we've been told. To start a new story, full of potential and possibilities. To empower future generations to question, challlenge and write their own stories.
We don't have to say "yes" or "later" to everything in the quest for growth and mastery. We can choose to focus our efforts on what aligns with us fully.
I agree in priciple. But, if we're constantly evolving (or we should anyway!), won't the alignments move as well? now, antecipating what I think your response could be: regardless of how much you evolve, your core values should fairly remain teh same. Yes, but I'm talking about alignments, not core values. (apologies in advance if my assumption was off!)
I would ask though... would you accept a surgeon operating on you because 'they' decided that they were a master, or would you want to know that they have been through the academic structures put in place?
love que question! I would want them both in teh same doctor: the one that went through the validation of peers AND has teh confidence to consider itself a master (confidence, not hubris!).. If you manage to add there a good amount of curiosity (to keep the knowlegde and confidence up to date), tehn you have teh perfect doctor.
But to realistically answer your question: it depends on the circunstance. If it's a planned surgery, I'd go for the peer-validated-paper-on-the-wall-there-are-other-doctors-in-the-hospital-if-your-hands-shake doctor. If i'm in a war zone, I'd probably place my life in the crazy-confident-even-if-bottom-of-his-class-balls-and-hand-of-iron one.
There is room for both internal and external locus. Especially when you think about the fact that when you are mastering something, you are always begin learning from an 'external' source.
Totally agree. There should be balance. nature tells us that. And am totally fine with following/continuing someone else's premisse (it's inefficient to reinvent teh weel), so long as you're trully understood it, questioned it, and after questioning still agree to it. My issue is with teh lack of critical thinking.
Once I have mastered one, I can then focus on the next.
I agree, that mastering them all at once can be borderline impossible. Although, as you mention, we actually achieve it in many areas of our life: relationships, family, work, etc. probably on a daily basis.
Maybe the difference is that rather than "no", I chose "not now". I don't close the door, just use a "do not disturb" sign temporarly. Then come back to it. Like you say "when I'm ready" for it.
Now here's a question: what if the problem is not in teh archetype itself (because I believe we need masters as much as generalists) but the mastery's locus? is it like beauty, in teh eyes of teh beholder? What if "master of x" should just be defined by our internal locus, independant of external opinions, academia's structures and constrictions?
my cycle is similar, sometimes in circles, sometimes in elipses (pivot from circle and go on a tangent closer to another area of interest). Love the polinator analogy! not only it covers the moving from flower to flower for yourself, as it also contributes to teh pollination of the flowers themselves! a bit like @nym's purpose
Good question. Why do you think? I agree with the author here. It's the stories we've been told, and teh stories that were told before us, etc. over and over, going from generation to generation without much input of critical thinking.
great read. Although some polymath neurons in my head are resisting the limitation of 1 to 2 priorities, and the archetype of mastery. I believe it's important to zoom in to the leafs of course, but constantly zoom out to the forest, for perpective as well. Also, why do we keep feeding the archetype that the master of one is better than the jack of all trades?
I once made an elecric guitar from a cigar box. For the knowledge and experience. I don't even play! offered it to a friend
Thank you @anniedustan! That image illustrates it beautifully! 😊
thanks @riberet19!!
Thanks @anniedustan! Read your bio, thank you for the confetti as well!