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115 sats \ 11 replies \ @Natalia 8h \ on: Stacker Saloon
Is it normal to reject help from others?
I was getting into a shop yesterday with a friend, and it seemed some tourists were having trouble with the payment. My friend wanted to help, but the person pretended he understood the problem with his card and then left. I also wanted to help, but I didn't like his attitude, so I didn't say anything at the end.
I know city people usually put up their guard to protect themselves, but maybe they miss out on a lot if they're totally closed off to kindness.
For example, I recently met someone on the airplane, and the person who sat next to me invited me for coffee after some talk. I was a bit hesitant at first, but then I kept asking him different questions to get a sense of this person. It turned out really interesting! since he is from a place I have zero idea about. We went to dinner at the end, and he helped me so much while I was there. It's a wonderful feeling to meet a new friend in a completely new place.
I'm aware of the dangers out there, but it's quite sad if everyone is putting up walls to each other.
I don’t know if it’s normal, but I know people like that. I guess it could be for all kinds of reasons, we shouldn’t judge! I had a one-legged teacher who used crutches, and every now and then he’d fall, but he always refused any help.
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But why need to act like a cold fish? Someone else was only trying to help and be kind. I guess most people are just used to being alone and to being told you are on your own, solve your own problem!
But in the culture where I'm used to, you offer a helping hand whenever you can, and you would be helped when you need.
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Yeah, the reaction makes all the difference.
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