Caring about what others think of you.
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1356 sats \ 3 replies \ @cryotosensei 15 Oct 2023
That if you try your hardest, things will somehow work out.
Sometimes, shit just happens
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10 sats \ 1 reply \ @Jorj_X_McKie 16 Oct 2023
You gotta be persistent. Everything is gradually then suddenly.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei 16 Oct 2023
That’s a fair point. I’ll keep trying 💪
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
I definitely thought this when I was young -- that things would turn out alright. Then I grew up and was like Damn! I have to make it turn out alright!
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808 sats \ 2 replies \ @Undisciplined 15 Oct 2023
Probably confirmation bias
There's some recent evidence that confirmation bias actually gets worse in people who understand confirmation bias: i.e. people succumb to confirmation bias more, when they are trying not to.
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106 sats \ 1 reply \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
very interesting, will have to research that more
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 15 Oct 2023
I haven't looked into the quality of the study, and they don't investigate the mechanism, but it did catch my interest.
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104 sats \ 2 replies \ @NoStranger 15 Oct 2023
Blending my life and my job.
I worked so much into making my environment better just to understand that all I did was actually for someone else, someone that was making profit out of it, my precious personal time was basically like some weird kind of unpaid work.
Having an healthy and friendly environment at work is fine, just keep you personal growth "personal", you're more important than a job you can change or lose.
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30 sats \ 1 reply \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
It's okay for some to find fulfillment in their career, and to not for others. Just need to figure out which you are
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @NoStranger 16 Oct 2023
I do think I'm happy at my job, the issue was that, once I tried to take other side works, I had nothing to share because the value I brought was only for the company I'm in.
Personally, I consider "fulfillment" the act of doing something that's worth the effort for more than my paycheck. This is something I already do today.
What I need is, to focus on the right things.
Just doing work at work, to put it simply. 😊
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92 sats \ 1 reply \ @0245bdaef2 15 Oct 2023
The most dangerous cognitive trap is the oversimplification of our fellow human beings. Let’s call it NPCification.
The human mind can only contain one full human mind at a time. In order for us to model each other, we do a quick mental diff as in “that person is like me except in x, y, or z way”. Only problem is that is a reductive model. You are shaving off so much intricacy in the name of saving a few precious joules of mental energy (but the brain is lazy and likes finding shortcuts), so we end up reducing each other to being less complex than ourselves.
In war. In sport. In romance. In business. In friendship. It’s a mistake to simplify others. You can’t help but do it, but you can be aware of the tendency so that it doesn’t cause you to miscalculate your whole life.
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
gotta learn to love the complexity of humans, makes you more interesting as a result
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77 sats \ 3 replies \ @pakovm 15 Oct 2023
"Everyone is a little ADHD, you just have to find purpose, motivation and try to focus harder"
Great, I just need a new brain 👍
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
Lolllllll same
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Bullen 16 Oct 2023
This is true for so many things haha. People just go to the simplest solution as if one hasn't tried it.
Speaking of, have you tried using a planner?
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @pakovm 16 Oct 2023
It works for me on my job, but it doesn't work in my daily life. I've tried hundreds of them.
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70 sats \ 0 replies \ @ceife 15 Oct 2023
No management
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70 sats \ 2 replies \ @carlosfandango 15 Oct 2023
Well, this is going to turn out badly…. so I guess disaster prediction.
We end up worrying about the worst that MAY happen. There is a difference between forewarned of a potential outcome and paralysis in the face of it.
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33 sats \ 1 reply \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
internet has certainly made this worse...
People are far too exposed to far too much they have zero control over. Unfortunately it's easier to occupy yourself with others' problems rather than deal with your own
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @carlosfandango 15 Oct 2023
Agreed. Far easier to be preoccupied by drama of others in preference to our own…. The development of society since prehistory is one of storytelling between tribes and then worrying about what the other side said or think about us…
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76 sats \ 1 reply \ @nel0 15 Oct 2023 freebie
Thinking that because you were/are right about something, it automatically makes it more likely that you're right about something else you often know very little about. There's plenty of people who have been successful in one field and then start throwing out opinions about other fields as if their initial success confirmed that they're in some way better at finding the truth of things in general.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
Ego! Must keep it in check. Must remember you are separate from it.
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63 sats \ 2 replies \ @grayruby 15 Oct 2023
Buying and holding shitcoins because of their "utiliity". If they are actually utility tokens (instead of degen gambling collectibles) then they should have no monetary premium.
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20 sats \ 1 reply \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
ser i utilize them to lose money. this is freedom!
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @grayruby 15 Oct 2023
That's a fair argument.
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42 sats \ 0 replies \ @zuspotirko 15 Oct 2023
Pessimism
The saying goes: Pessimists sound smart, optimists get rich. But it's the same thing in politics and culture war stuff: be wary of people that sound smart because they are pessimistic. They might be right - they might be low iq populists
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42 sats \ 0 replies \ @knorozov 15 Oct 2023
Conformity and authority. Asch and Milgram.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @kingzing131 16 Oct 2023 freebie
I would say it's the over confidence in anything at all.
Be it religion,or reality itself.
Sure, simulation theory etc all sounds too radical to be true, but it's one of the million things that we just can never confirm for certain.
Could our universe randomly just cease to exist due to some cosmetic events happen light years away and torn the fabric of space time? Absolutely.
0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Ribbit 16 Oct 2023
That jews are beyond condemnation.
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2221 sats \ 7 replies \ @brandonsbytes 15 Oct 2023
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64 sats \ 3 replies \ @BlokchainB 15 Oct 2023
Saw this type of behavior my whole career. Not in programming but the ancient art of civil engineering
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809 sats \ 2 replies \ @brandonsbytes 15 Oct 2023
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64 sats \ 0 replies \ @BlokchainB 15 Oct 2023
Absolutely but in my experience you can be open and collaborate or closed off and EXTREMELY arrogant
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20 sats \ 0 replies \ @2bithits 15 Oct 2023
Most likely everywhere. I know musicians who are like that too. They like to analyze everything & forget to actually listen to the music!
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53 sats \ 1 reply \ @siggy47 15 Oct 2023
I also see this in everyday life. Sometimes I feel like the world is broken into two groups: those who do, and those who criticize.
It just feels that way. Plenty do both.
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43 sats \ 0 replies \ @birdeye21 OP 15 Oct 2023
Social media (trad at least) is rife with both, but tends to reward those who criticize the most. So backwards.
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @WeAreAllSatoshi 15 Oct 2023
Sometimes I find it difficult to make decisions when leading, but find it very easy to critique the same decision if someone else made it. I think it’s a mental thing. But I don’t let that stop me from taking lead
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