612 sats \ 30 replies \ @Natalia 8 Jan \ parent \ on: Stacker Saloon
how about setting up something more fun for him? Like why not play a game with him to improve his shower habits? if he loves to play then let's play 😂
e.g.I would teach you something new or take you somewhere you like ( insert anything he loves but can't get them often ) if you go take the shower right now.
feel free to ignore Natalia's theory parenting
Because it’s just easier to grab him by the shoulders and drag him to the bathroom haha. The trick is to laugh about it so that he will laugh too - even though that is the last thing on earth I wanna do.
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Don't worry, my wife resorts to that same tactic sometimes.
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or just leave him alone? 😂😂😂
okay you do you, I'm off to sleep soon, which means no one would help you with anything:)!
would this too brutal for a kid?
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I could have tried this ignoring him tactic but my wife would not be amused. It would be way past his bedtime n he can’t wake up the day after. She is the one who takes him to school before 8.30am haha
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Actually nope. I’m a teacher who works in the public school system. Of course it has its flaws but I think the socialisation aspect is something that is hard to replicate in a homeschooling setting. I like hanging out with people too haha
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I started to think about how doable it is because a. I do have time to teach the kid myself, and in a more practical getting hand dirty way! b.social wise, maybe a small workshop style with other kids is the way to go.
Personally, I don't want the kid to go through what I've gone through and end up not only wasting time and being fed so much wrong information.
how about you? @Undisciplined
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All options are on the table as far as we're concerned. I'm a big advocate of homeschooling, but I'm more interested in private Montessori schools personally.
Well im from Singapore and our education system is top-notch even if we focus too much on academic grades haha
You definitely don't want to violate the "happy wife happy life" theory of marriage.
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The ONE principle that matters
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Been there, tried that. Kids are on their own time and have their own priorities. Especially when they're little, that kind of approach might even seem like it's working and then they just randomly get distracted by something else.
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so what would be the solution?
taking notes 👀
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Flexibility and patience.
"There are no solutions, only tradeoffs." -Thomas Sowell
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I thought about setting up a parenting territory, but the 100k sats is a risk I m not willing to take at this point in time
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For some reason, I thought there already was a parenting territory. I'll think about putting up the sats for it.
I got beaten to ~econ when territories launched and nothing else struck me as being worth founding, but parenting is definitely something I care enough about.
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I think parenting is one of the most important topics in life - how to nurture someone to be a good person and passing down knowledge.
~econ is cool, but it's out of our control, yet we have so much influence with our own kids 👀
I said this because I can see how much influence my parent had on me
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How many children do you have, mate?
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Just one, so far. We'll see if that changes.
@Undisciplined you have no idea how comforting your words are to me - sleep-deprived after my baby girl woke me up at 5. “Kids are on their own time” - simple n profound. Kinda cheesy but I’m feeling grateful for your words. I will say this to myself every day haha
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I appreciate you sharing your parenting experiences. I'm sure I'm not the only one who finds them very relatable.
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