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A collection of thoughts from yours truly + some notable quotes + me trying to give some context regarding a couple of things I've written. I dated my writings simply because I like to keep track of how my ideas evolve over time. Enjoy at your own discretion:
Becoming enlightened is not only about focusing on the bright side. It’s about illuminating the dark. / May 14, 2024
As a man, getting your heart broken by someone you deeply love can be one of the best things to ever happen to you. The light will enter through the wound and illuminate the parts of you that you need to work on. The most important thing is to not conceal the wound i.e. to keep your heart open. Otherwise, the wound will start rotting and before you know it, your whole soul is rotten and all you’ll be left with is hate and resentment. / May 18, 2024 For context (or Kontext, if you will): here, I use the word "man" and I mean male, because that's the perspective from which I have experience on the subject. I think women, like children, don't deserve to have their heart broken at all. Please don't take this as if I'm trying to "demote" women to children's level. It's the opposite. It's because women and children are SO INCREDIBLY SACRED. Also, my intuitive guess would be that for women & children, mending a broken heart is a much more difficult and time-consuming task than it is for a man. Well, to be completely honest, it's not just a guess - at least from a child's perspective I do have a similar experience - and I'm not even sure whether I've fully healed yet. Probably not. Now why do I think it is easier for men to heal? Well, quite simply, it's because men mostly live in the physical realm, whereas women and children in the metaphysical - which also means that they are inherently more fragile (again - don’t mistake “fragile” for “weak”) in a sense. Men can quite easily regain themselves by physical work/exercise and connection to Mother Nature. Regaining that sense of self (worth) is not as easy in the metaphysical realm. So women would probably need to do things that are, in broad terms, artistic, such as: singing, dancing, writing, painting... Also they would need a very healthy and very supportive communal connection - preferably one which includes masculine men they can trust. If a group of broken-hearted men get together, probably one of two things would happen: 1) They would barely talk about women at all (the defeatist mindset) 2) They would start coming up with ways to "get back in the game" (i.e. they would try to get better, or at least, what they think that women think is better) If a group of broken-hearted women get together, they would probably cultivate each other's hate and resentment towards men even further, re-assuring each other that it is justified and that "all men are pigs" or something of the sorts. If anyone can make a case as to why and how my line of thinking here is off the rails - please do. I've said it before and I'll say it again: I could care less about being "right." I care about the truth.
A spiritual man recognizes the Divine in himself. An enlightened man recognizes the Divine in everybody else. / November 12, 2023 For context: here, I use the word "man" as a synonym for "human"
Remember this: The light can very easily penetrate the darkness; but darkness can never penetrate the light. / November 23, 2023
I would never go as far as to call myself “awake” or “enlightened.” I think that’s a slippery slope. There’s always more to be learned about the Universe, about yourself. / June 26, 2023
Enlightenment, samadhi, is not fully attainable on the physical level. You can experience most of it. But like someone said, when you reach enlightenment, you literally turn into light. Perhaps that’s what auras are. That inner energy, that enlightenment that emanates from within. / March 14, 2023 For context: that’s more of a thought experiment based on what I heard someone say (apparently it was Ramalinga Swamigal who had popularized the idea, but I don’t remember exactly how or where I heard this from). I haven’t turned into light (obviously), nor do I know where the line between “just” a deep meditation/trance and an "actual" samadhi state is.
3 steps to enlightenment: 1. Realize you used to suck 2. Realize you suck now 3. Realize you will suck in the future / January 8, 2023
True wealth emanates from within. / November 18, 2022
Curiosity creates luminosity. / November 17, 2022
Some insightful quotes that I feel resonate the most with my personal experience and understanding of the subject:
“Spiritual experiences are just clear perception; perception that is not totally distorted. In which, the interconnectedness of everything with everything else; and the uniqueness of everything, are both apparent.” ― Daniel Schmachtenberger
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ― Carl G. Jung
“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretence. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.” ― Adyashanti
“If you gaze into the abyss long enough, you see the light, not the darkness.” ― Jordan B. Peterson
“The real meaning of enlightenment is to gaze with undimmed eyes on all darkness.” ― Nikos Kazantzakis
“We live in the age of entitlement, as opposed to enlightenment.” ― Bill Bailey
“Enlightenment is ego’s ultimate disappointment.” ― Chögyam Trungpa
“Before enlightenment, chopping wood and carrying water. After enlightenment, chopping wood and carrying water.” — Zen proverb
“Enlightenment is not a fixed place. There is no fixed place. All that one has to do is understand the chaos and disorder in which we live. In the understanding of that, we have order, and clarity and certainty come.” ― Jiddu Krishnamurti
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10 sats \ 1 reply \ @BononXD 28 May
Hello, as I said, I will read it in my free time and I did. Of course, I'm not questioning your experience or the words of people whose quotes you used, it would be unwise for me as an ordinary 18-year-old who doesn't have a girlfriend and is single, largely by choice. Reading this text from the beginning and adding my thoughts about my behavior, the way I look at the world, etc., and most importantly, what helps me put a proverbial band-aid on my wounds, I sometimes come to the conclusion that I am mentally and spiritually or a child or a woman, rather the former, mental maturity is achieved at the age of 25, as far as I know. Unfortunately, the article's distaste is such that it concerns men injured by relationships. I've never had one like that and I'm more bothered by my self-destructive thoughts now, probably because of this summer weather. Unfortunately, I often see myself as a reverse person, which means that most people enjoy being close to their family, the sun and warmth, and being able to meet friends, but I treat conversations as a necessity when I have nothing to do, I prefer cold and rain and meeting my family. I hate it, coming back to the weather because my mood literally depends on it, in my case the sun is blazing in the summer and I feel like self-destruction, in the winter or autumn I would even play for myself, in the snow, in the rain, for joy, just to dance in the rain that then most people might think I'm crazy. Loneliness made us immune to such thoughts.
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Hey there! Well let's start from the mental maturity part... age 25, yes, maybe 20-30 years ago or if you're a very highly motivated / curious / non-conformist type of a person. I know a lot of 35-year olds who still act like they're 16. Me personally, I think around the 30/31 mark I started to really shift my perspective and even that was largely due to some "ego death" type experiences that made me seriously question who I am and what my place is in the world. Also, heartbreak/relationships are only one small part of this theme - I went deeper on this because I thought that's where nuance is really necessary. The main idea is this - look into yourself, look at those dark thoughts and try to identify the cause(s). Meditation and journalling are also very powerful tools in this aspect - and I reckon they work regardless of your age and/or gender. However you achieve this, once you find out what bothers you, you can start looking into whether these things that are affecting you are in your control or outside of your control. If it is something you're in control of, acknowledge it and simply start changing it (of course, it is rarely easy). If it is outside of your control, find ways to work around it, remove it or consciously choose your reaction to it (i.e. say to yourself: this is the way it is right now. I don't like it, but for the time being I have to live with it, so I'm not going to let it bother me. Viktor Frankl has a great quote on this: "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." You said you hate the sun & the summer. As an 18-year old, I would hope/assume that you have some time off school and/or work. Maybe you can take a solo trip, or a family trip if you'd like, to somewhere where it's colder/rainier or even snowy? If you enjoy silence and solitude, consider doing something even more out of the ordinary such as a silent retreat (I looked into doing one - a Vipassana type retreat - a year or so ago myself but decided against it because aside from not being allowed to speak they also had a whole bunch of other rules - and I generally dislike being told what I can or cannot do). Or if you don't have time and/or money to go anywhere, you can usually at least reduce the amount of contact you have with whatever it is you dislike. Perhaps a more of a nocturnal (I'm a bit of a night owl myself) lifestyle would fit you in the summer if you can study or work at nights? It's cooler, there's no sun, there's not that many people around, etc. Hope this helps!
The first "For context" explanation is better how I originally wrote it: "here, I use the word "man" and I mean man" Because - children also have genders (duh) and the word "man" makes a clear distinction between that and "boy" IDEK why I changed it to "male" - perhaps to further emphasize the gender part. This happens to me a lot BTW:
  1. I write something
  2. I re-read it, am not 100% happy with the wording or think something is ambiguous, edit it
  3. I post/publish it
  4. I re-read it again a day or two later and realize how I wrote it in the first place was actually a better way to say what I wanted to say :)
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