My parents did a lot of drugs around me growing up but always lied about them. They were sharing "cigarettes," snorting nasal medicine, the little mirrors were for applying makeup, and they went into the bathroom with groups of their friends for long periods of time for protection. My weekend sporting events always culminated in a huge rager at one of the coach's houses (where at some point late in the night the head coach's wife would lick my eyeballs, Bert would put slugs up his nose to sneeze them out in front of us kids, and I'd wind up locked in a closet as the youngest teammate).

In some ways I'm glad I didn't know what was going on, especially with the harder drugs. Although, it was confusing for me and admitting it might've been the best thing for my parents. The accountability might've saved them from divorce, the loneliness they find themselves living now, and their continued addictions.

I smoked pot for the first time at 12 out of a pipe my friends made out of tinfoil. One day before school at 14, I drank so much tequila I puked on the bus, blacked out in a bush before class, then was wheeled to the middle of principal's office where I puked again and finally put in an ambulance. In high school, I'd steal pot from my dad during our monthly visits passing over the powders in plastic bags. I started growing pot at 16, reading a book about growing in my classes (I had fashioned a cover for it). My mom lived with her boyfriend when she wasn't getting arrested or entering and exiting rehab, and my younger sister lived with my aunt, so I was mostly left alone and had drunken get togethers with a small group of friends most weekends. I flunked out of high school at 17 and moved out.

I'd only do things around my children I wouldn't mind them doing.

I don’t smoke but if I did I would be honest about it with my oldest (14) but I would not smoke in front of him.

I do occasionally take a gummy. My wife was working in the cannabis industry until she needed to take time off to recover from surgery. She used to get sample products all the time. We always made an effort to keep them out of sight of the kids.

But that’s just our thing. Doesn’t mean you are doing it wrong.

I had many discussions with friends about this issue. Even amongst the real stoners, only one set of parents smoked in front of their kids in high school. My wife and I smoked a lot of pot between us during our lifetimes, but we both had more or less quit by the time our daughter was born. I wouldn't smoke in front of my daughter even now, and she's 23. I'm not making a moral or ethical judgment, though. It just would make me uncomfortable.

She was and is aware of our history.

So far, I don't have kids but I've some kind of Alcohal addiction. Hopefully I leave it in time so that I don't be ashamed in front of my kids. I also smoke but only after drinking so that's not an addiction for me. If I can leave alcohal, I'll also leave smoking. Even alcohal has a lot of health benifits, that doesn't make it acceptable for regular use. I also believe that every drug can be medicine if you take them in limited quantities.

As I am single, I don't have kids. Thankfully my father doesn't have any addiction for anything, not even tobacco chewing which is very common in my location. When I'll have kids, I can't, I won't do any of the activity in front of them which I can't see them doing.

I think the main idea is to stress the danger of substances on the growing brain — literature shows that people getting into THC at a young age end up being less successful. Once you are a grown adult and your brain is mostly formed, have at it! (But everything in moderation, including moderation).

My kids are still young.. So i try to avoid smoke everything in their presence.. But, one day, i hope i can share a joint with them. How can you be a good parent if you dont teach them about drugs? I guess teaching prohibition is not the best way.

My dad used to hide it. Its funny, we always thought our dad would just have 1 cigarette a week. Then we found out what it was when we became teenagers and also found that he had a plant growing in the backyard. That ended up causing some trouble, but I won't go into that.

Now I'm a father its something I'll have to think about more as the kids get older. I don't smoke myself, but I don't know if demonizing pot is the right way (my wife thinks like this).

I think you are absolutely right. In this case we are not talking about smoking in front of children of 5 or 9 years old. These are teenagers of 15 or older and in my adolescence at that age it was already easy to see all kinds of things in the street, at parties, schools etc. And that was more than 20 years ago, that is to say, today everything is more degraded at a social level in the street and drugs reach every young teenager or adult sooner or later. And if their parents have never spoken to them and shown them the reality, they are easier to influence. On the other hand, I do not consider cannabis to be just another drug, I consider it to be something that is highly stigmatized by society - but which society? - those who live asleep and drunk month after month immersed in their short cycle of "morally superior" platitudes. Regarding alcohol, it is normalized because the owners of that industry are old families, the same ones that keep everyone asleep and obviously they need a catalyst that atrophies your brain 🧠 as you consume it and time passes.

I personally grew up in an environment where if the family heard that someone was smoking marijuana they were immediately labeled a Stoner (a term they use for people who smoke crack 💀) But on the other hand, it was well seen that at 13 or 14 years old you got 🍻 drunk at a family or friends party, or that you fought with other people for being 🤬🍺🥴 drunk, that was and is in a certain way normalized and even encouraged by uncles, grandparents or parents. Growing up in this environment, I started drinking alcohol very early at 13 years old. And to be honest, it was on the verge of becoming a persistent problem for me and my family. Between the ages of 14 and 16 or 17, more or less, it was a terrible spiral, with more and more parties, more alcohol, partying with friends, weddings, quinceanera parties, even funerals were places where people would settle, there was a lot of alcohol and you would come out dazed. During that period, I saw and got to know a lot of drugs without trying any of them. I had a lot of acquaintances who used everything from shoe glue to ecstasy, and above all cocaine, the most unpleasant thing that can exist, and of course marijuana. It wasn't until I was 17 or 18 that I tried marijuana for the first time, and it was immediately a kind of click. But marijuana and alcohol in excess don't usually go together very well. I learned that the hard way from some experiences that I might write about one day very soon. To sum it up, right when I was 21 my awakening began in a certain way (which never meant anything to me, until now. I rewind and understand it all as a hidden sign that came to me back then before I even knew about Bitcoin). Right at 2️⃣1️⃣ I made a definitive decision! Quit alcohol 🚫 and only smoke 🍁 marijuana, I compared the two on a scale ⚖️ and obviously it will always lean in favor of the plant. I left university and the career imposed by my mother, I stayed without alcohol for more than two years, I dedicated myself to working and finding who I was and what I wanted, and while all that was happening I was learning more about cannabis and smoking more, and I only smoked marijuana, I did not ingest other drugs. That led me to focus more on my tastes and desires. I started skating with a Longboard, I moved away from home and became independent from my parents, then I started studying photography and working with that in tourism and so little by little I found my way as a free person, who did not want to live under the standards of other people, or models foreign to my desires. Thanks to that, I gave myself the opportunity to escape from my environment. Since it awakened in me the desire to go out and explore other places, and the certainty that my real goals in life would not be found in the neighborhood where I grew up. And in the neighborhood there are only two options: the slow route, being a normie worker from Monday to Saturday, or the fast route, which has an average life expectancy of 18 to 25. And I refused to choose either of the two, I escaped from there and designed my own path and now I am freer than ever, now that I know and learn about bitcoin every day I can better define my course and my path forward together with my family. Thank you for your post and allowing me to express these memories, while giving an opinion, thank you 🤝🤠

Here comes the problem, I never smoked pod and I'm childfree atm But I do a lot of other crazy stuffs

I don't have kids.... Maybe on a special occasion like a wedding or a big celebration, but not casually throughout the week. Anything habit forming or addictive I would want to try and limit around my kids.

I dont smoke, I think we should do smoking in frount our kids

i strongly believe Smoking pot in front of children or using any substance raises concerns about modeling behavior and the potential impact on their understanding of substance use. Setting a positive example is important in guiding their own attitudes and behaviors toward substance use.

In the 20 years that I have been alive, I have never smoked anything. My parents have always warned me and told me that if you fall into that world, you never get out (except for those who manage to rehabilitate themselves), and I know that if I ever have children, I will do the same as my parents.

Could this be a reason why you sometimes can’t sleep at night?

I think the only answer is the one that is right for you and your family. I agree with your reasoning. I feel teenagers respect us more when we are willing to be authentic in front of them rather than maintain a holier-than-thou attitude. I can’t smoke weed in front of my children; it’s prohibited in Singapore. So the law has decided for me.