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52 sats \ 10 replies \ @cryotosensei 16 May \ on: Stacker Saloon
Happiness Journal 16/52/25
Had to relieve a teacher’s Secondary 3 class and got them to do a listening comprehension exercise as she had requested. One section was about identifying the conversational partner’s opinion, which could be quite tedious to go through for easily distracted teens.
So, I got them to copy down the transition lines:
“I understand your concern, but…”
“I see your point, but…”
As you know, these transition lines are useful for articulating your position across, but they are useless in preserving marital bliss.
So, I taught this class of bright-eyed teenagers about how they ought to replace ‘but’ with ‘and’ so that they don’t irritate their future spouse with fake empathy. I then demonstrated how to express a contrarian view while acknowledging the other party’s point of view.
I don’t know how much these kids took in (some of them put their heads on the desk in spite of my animated explanations), but I feel pretty good that I taught them how to navigate exams AND life within the same lesson.
I have never tried that interesting transition, “I understand your concern, but …” with my wife. I am not quite sure I would even think of trying it!!1 To me, at least, it just looks like I would be hunting and trolling for a swift smackdown, at the very least. My best response for these situations is just biting my tongue!
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That’s because we married 鬼ババ onibaba. @Aardvark is tickled pink
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And we can form a support group 😭
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If my wife heard or saw me calling her onibaba, I don’t know if my head would remain on my shoulders or not!!! This baba just doesn’t go. When I was watching Dragon Ball in Japan and uranai baba came up I didn’t quite understand it and asked her. Then I called her baba….. I have never done it again since then, don’t think I ever will.
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I only call my wife that in front of her friends because she can’t kill me in polite company, even if she wants to. Haha
Cute story!
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i once learned that saying "but" basically invalidates the previous sentence;
that is an excellent teaching point for the kids; i particularly like when people do not echo or rephrase my statement, and instead continue elaborating on my thought from their perspective; this is akin to riding waves together rather than bouncing a ball back and forth;
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Oh I love your analogies at the end! Thanks for sharing your thoughts
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