10 sats \ 4 replies \ @BononXD 26 May \ on: Stacker Saloon
Hello, I haven't written for a few days, I don't want any attention or sato for the above, because for me this channel is more of a place where I write something like my diary that everyone can read. In recent days, my mental health has been worse, so much so that I didn't want to have contact with anyone, so much so that I told the only friend I've known for 4 years via the Discord platform that I don't want to keep in touch with him at all. In general, I am not a very talkative person, which I haven't said before, so much so that I talk to about 10 people during the day, either via the Internet or normally with my family or, shall I say, with friends? Anyway, never mind, I've also had some stupid ideas lately, including one of them being the desire to have a head-on collision with a car, I won't say more because I think it's too drastic. The last few days have been a little better and I went back to this friend to tell him what and how, but I see and have the impression that after this situation he is very distant from me.
Sometimes people drift away from us when we are at our lowest because they feel like they don't know what to say, or how to say it. Sometimes revealing our dark sides ignites theirs; and most don't want to face their dark sides.
Anyway, I know you didn't ask for any, but my suggestions would be: go out, get some sun, touch some grass. Work out and/or engage in any creative endeavour you prefer. Realize that you're not the only one going through similar things - and in that vain, be kind to people. Smile to people, even if it's a forced smile - more often than not, they'll smile back. And most likely, that smile will result in you smiling for real :)
Last but not least; "this too shall pass," whatever it is.
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thank you, so you are saying that after some time everything will return to normal when it comes to your relationship with this friend, but it takes time, as I understand it? I know it will be hard for me with all these exercises, sun, etc. but thanks for the advice anyway, maybe I will be able to use it
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No, not necessarily. It might, and if that person really cares about you, it will, but sometimes people drift away from us and we have to be OK with letting them go. Just, if they need space, give them space. What I primarily meant is that the feelings / the darkness you might be experiencing, will pass. They say it's the darkest before dawn... and if you've really seen, felt, experienced the darkness, the contrast of the light will be even more apparent & even more beautiful.
This is why Jordan Peterson said:
“If you gaze into the abyss long enough, you see the light, not the darkness.”
You know, I compiled some ideas into a couple of posts not too long ago, maybe they could be useful to you:
ON SUFFERING: #521959
ON ENLIGHTENMENT: #548857
Take care! :)