I'm not asking for a prediction of what will happen but rather what would you recommend as a plan to find common ground. To mend the wounds. To prevent violent conflict?
Not looking for someone to debunk my position but rather provide their own thoughts.
In the US there are a large number of people that are completely disenfranchised from the political process. I'm in that camp. Then you have the two main sides in the culture war (there are all sorts of sub-groups but I'm simplifying). These two sides seem to look at elections as the solution. Its winner take all in their mind. Vote harder and we will force our way upon the other half. When one side wins the other side calls foul. They claim the election was rigged, or it was manipulated. Both sides do this. I do not see this changing. At least I have not heard someone explain how it works itself out. Basically each side has demonized the other.
Here's an example from an email from MoveOn.org. They framed the Trump movement as seeking a national ban on abortion. They advocate for a national allowance for abortion. The status quo is that each state decides on abortion. This means that some states can ban it. Others can be more liberal with the procedure. It is true that pretty much as soon as Roe was overturned there were conservatives that started pushing for a nation-wide ban through a law. Now anyone with any knowledge of Congress knows there is no way this happens. Yet, the conservatives pushing for this are throwing red meat to their side. Since Roe was overturned they have lost one of their main rallying cries. Now the Left has a big issue to fight for again.
I mention this specific example because it has been clear to me for some time that neither side has the incentive to govern for every American. They only care about their side and even more accurately their donors.
So what do you do when you have an issue where two sides cannot agree? There are a few options.
Force: Make the other side do what you want.
Force really should be the last option but IMO it appears to be the default for most people. The state/government is predicated on force/violence. This is the low key threat that you will get put in a cage if you go against the state, or rather those that hold state power. I think most people have been indoctrinated to not see the violence inherent in democracy. Put more fairly, the violence in the state. All forms of it.
Compromise: Find some sort of middle ground. Live and let live.
Compromise is better in my view. On the issue of abortion I am opposed to the practice. But that said, I realize that there is a large number of people that support it. I believe the status quo in the US is a pretty good compromise. Each state can determine how they handle it. The issue with compromise is that it requires a sort of attitude in short supply these days. Minding your own affairs and allowing others to live their lives as they see. The incentive structure of the US system of political parties and democracy itself fights against this attitude.
Divide: Separate the groups.
So we are left with the final option. Divide. We see this in practice many places outside of governments. We see it with people who just don't get along. After all, we don't all live together. Even families that love each other need to separate from time to time. I love my extended family but we would have massive conflict if we lived together all the time. We get together for a meal. For the holidays. But we don't live together under a single governance model. We see this in marriage. Who among us believes it is morally right for an abusive husband to force his wife to stay in a marriage? We see it in governments/states as well. Brexit, Switzerland, USSR, and the empires of the past. Mono-governments don't scale.
Imagine we had a global democracy. Imagine the peoples of other cultures having a say in how you live your life. You may opposed secession in the US but can you imagine a global super government ruling over small nations (some of you will say this is the way it is today, and I would be sympathetic to your position). Most people can see the issues, or at least the complexity of placing different cultural groups under a single governing system. Its a question of scale.
With this in mind the best option for the US IMO is secession. I'm not going into this in the detail required to make the arguments and counter arguments but just stating where I'm coming from.
If you disagree with "national divorce" that's fine. What is your solution to the current conflict? Did I miss an option? Is there another option besides force, compromise, and divide? When I talk to people most seem to support force more than any other option (though they would not describe it that way). In my view division is inevitable. The main question is how poorly that goes. Personally I would rather have a peaceful division like that of Brexit or even the USSR.